3 obvious Red flags on your first date : Women Version
The first date is the most important date that helps you to decide the fate of the relation.
It helps you to define approximately if you wanna take this relationship to a next level and start investing time, feelings and efforts to make it work or to run away and never look back!
Here is 3 obvious and simple red flags to pay attention to in you first date:
1 – Picking you up or not :
As a way to express their attention and motivation to move forward with you in a serious relationship, men are most concentrated in the first dates to give you a good impression and to treat you like a princess if they really care about you.
As a way to show you their affection and attention they propose to pick you up for the date.
If they really are interested they will pick you up instead of waiting for you in some coffee or theatre chair.
The pick up is a really very important flag to pay attention to.
Picking you up means you are the most important factor of the whole day.
Not picking you up means they are interested by the date fact itself more than the person they are dating.
If he didn’t pick you up or at least propose to pick you up : RUN!
2 – Making choices for you :
Sometimes it looks really romantic if the person we are going out with would take the initiative to make plans and to organise everything for you.
But it should be as a way of proposals not plans to follow…
Avoid if these statements did happen:
- Ordering meals or drinks for you without asking you.
- Taking you somewhere they chose alone without your permission.
- Choosing what you dress: ‘ I want you to wear a casual dress for this special occasion’ isn’t romantic! It’s a red flag.
- Trying to orient the topic of the discussion about what they want to talk about without listening to you.
- Not asking you for your opinion in every tiny detail: time of the date or place for exemple!
If your date did one of the previous behaviour, so it won’t be worth it.
3 – talking more about themselves and asking less about you :
The first date is the most important timing to know each other.
The first impression will always have an impact on your relationship.
It’s normal that in this first date,
You both don’t know well about each other.
And it’s also normal that the man would be more interested in the first date (Most successful relationships are those where the men are more interested and investing more time and energy in the first dates).
So, pay attention to these points in your first date :
- Run! If they spent the date talking about themselves : Narcissistic !
- Run! If they didn’t ask much about you : what you love to do ? What are your preferences ? What’s your favourite meal?…
- Run! If they don’t look at you « The look » : You can tell a lot from how the person is looking at you : Either with lot of interest & affection or with a cold & normal look…
- Run! If they talk materials : their fortunes & work & cars… These type are more interested to impress you instead of loving you and building with you. Not worth it!
As a girl, I can tell you that the first date is the most important timing to decide either the person is a good life partner or not.
You must may attention to every tiny detail in this date.
It will be a decision of a long lasting healthy relationship or a long lasting painful experience…
Choice is yours to make!
Choose wisely!
Your date today may be your life partner tomorrow or your greatest sorrow everyday!
Let me know in the comment section if you agree or not and how was your experiences with the first dates.
I will be thrilled if you can also add more tips on the first dates that you had!
